i would live forever if i could, but not like this

This advice was passed along to me from a counselor; it was great to hear so I wanted to share it.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve

then heck no, you can’t “be friends.”

A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself

a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,

Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are…even if he has

more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

All men are not dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships…There is nothing cute about

baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists

of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re

always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.

You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate

them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.

i will one day recreate the picture <3

… when people think they know you “so well” they can define your :every next move and predict your: every next sentence. how can you possibly think you know me oh so well when i have YET  to figure my own self out ? I dont know who i am because ive always been dependent on being someone elses? ive never had the time alone to be able to figure out who i am, what i like & what i want to do .. ive been so focused on who he was ? what he likes? & what can i do to make him better… Its about time i learn to be selfish and focus on myself and learn myself and appreciate MYSELF… that way i can truly give myself to someone else.

As you sit back and over analyze situations or re evaluate events all that does its cloud your view to the possibilities of the future. Ever event in your life is a sculpture and every moment of pain a chisel is shaping you into the person you will eventually be.  although it hurts in the moment time will one day mend those heart breaks and allow you to truly appreciate the people who never left  .. because you were that important . looking back i never thought i would be able to get over some situations i faced… an i did . and it made me stronger although some made me colder. But maybe that isn’t bad being cold and shutting things out it causes you to see who truly cared enough to overcome those walls with and for you .so in actuality you should thank all the people who hurt you and left your side when you needed them the most .. it is the greatest lesson life has to teach you .As you get older your ” friends” start to dwindle down and lost loves start to become forgotten And you are then left standing alone … because at the end of the day the only person you have is yourself .   

conorebbs:

We coil our dreams around one another.
We heap expectations on fragile minds.

Is it any wonder we falter?
No person should be placed on an altar.

If someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll make an effort to be in it. So don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn’t make an effort to stay.

tears on my pillow
sadness on my face
i am lost now
in a world i cant replace

Darkness in my sky
brokenness in my heart
two hearts
that are now apart

feeling of stupidity
anger in mistakes
in a world so cold
and full of so many fakes

regret in my mind
madness on my brain
like a drug overdose
a needle in my vein. 

-av 

graciouswords:

I don’t need the sun to shine 
to brighten up my day, nor
stars upon the midnight sky
to lure sweet dreams my way.
All I need and all I want
is everything you are,
perfection in a mortal shell
to love from near or far.
And love I shall until the
day, the ocean never
meets the shore, then on
your heart I’ll promise you
my love forever more.

conorebbs:

She draws the curtains
To blind the stars
And chase the moonlight
From her scars.

She draws the curtains
To dress the room
With candle flames and
Soft perfume.

She draws the curtains
To cheat the night
By building wings and
Taking flight.